Sexually Focused Men And The Objects Of Their Non-Affection

Being in the business I'm in, and being a man, I'm often asked by guys how to get women to have sex with them. Ironically enough, my answer typically involves some iteration of, "Well, genius, stop trying so hard to get them to have sex with you."

But as many of us have already encountered time and again in life, one of the most oft-repeated blunders in the business world is "If something isn't working, do twice as much of it."

Such a ham fisted redoubling of efforts tends to turn up from time to time in the dating world also, doesn't it? Particularly, it seems, when guys aren't getting women to agree to all of the sex they want as often as they hoped.

Yeah, well. "Hope" is not a strategy.

Sure, male or female, we are all sexual creatures. But there is SO MUCH more depth to us all. Perhaps ironically, that's exactly the key to being more sexually fulfilled. And therein lies today's point. Make sure you are ready for this one, too...it's something you've never heard before (which I major in, if you're just getting acquainted with this newsletter). Here it is:

***Men who prioritize raw sexual fulfillment over actually building a relationship with a woman are almost universally the LEAST sexually fulfilled people I know of.***

Is this attributable to the old theory that "the more you chase something the more elusive it becomes"? Maybe in part, but there's much more to it.

Okay, then. Is it because most women are wise to such motives and don't give in? Unfortunately, that's not it either. There seems to be equal numbers of women these days who are okay with casual sex.

Well, what IS IT already?

The answer lies in the very telling likelihood that the guy who views women as walking life support systems for their vaginas is the VERY SAME ONE who constantly kvetches about how all [women] are "dead lays" with absolutely zero sexual skill, drive or creativity.

Bad sex = Low fulfillment

I submit that maybe the problem isn't the women. Come on now, you can't really believe that all women are passive, asexual and/or even frigid, can you? Well, maybe if that helps you sleep at night.

But really, why should a woman's full sexual potential be squandered on a guy who, when it comes down to it, is USING her?

Make no mistake. It won't be. Show me a guy who has a healthy respect for women, and furthermore actually ENJOYS women...and I'll show you a guy who's partner is so fired up in the bedroom (and the kitchen, and the closet, and the shower...) that the smoke detectors are disconnected.

Most women know all too well that one man's "dead lay" is another man's "Siren/Vixen" ("S/V"). And "I/J"s don't experience "S/V"s so much.

Go and try to figure THAT out. And when you do, deserve what you want.

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Deserve What You Want

Deserve What You Want is unlike any dating book you have ever read because it isn't about how to "handle rejection", "get over" bad relationships or how to "forget about" people you weren't compatible with anyway.

Well, I was tired of reading the same old things over and over again about "how to pick up women", "adding spark to a dull relationship", "getting over the last breakup", "tricking someone into sticking around", etc. In my mind, and maybe in yours also if you share my way of thinking, it is time for something altogether different-and decidedly more useful.

It is time for a reference manual on knowing what it takes to recreate ourselves into being the kind of partner the person of our dreams is going to be attracted to-and then going after our vision of who that partner for us is.

In other words, it's high time for a book on how best to prepare ourselves for great relationships instead of picking up the pieces from bad ones! This book is LONG OVERDUE.

And if you are like me, you already sense that you've just got to BE the BEST partner POSSIBLE in order to GET the BEST partner POSSIBLE. Otherwise, the only real-world alternative (at best) is to "settle" for a partner who disappoints you--and vice-versa. Millions of people live this kind of unhappy existence, drowning in pornography or soap operas in a weak attempt to vicariously live a dream which they have squandered. Knowing that real fulfillment is possible in a relationship, my passion is to help you make sure you are not one of the untold masses who "settle".

And in order to get a book on how to make that REALITY, the truth is that I had to write it myself.

And that's exactly the kind of book "Deserve What You Want" is. As such, it is one of the most revolutionary and groundbreaking books on dating and relationships ever written. I've searched Amazon.com and perused the shelves at Barnes And Noble, and nothing out there even comes close to the concept...the focus of this book is 100% original