Your success with women is not about what you physically say or do, but it's about the mental attitude that you develop within yourself.

Stop making sex your priority and you will end up getting far more sex.

That's a bit of a problem isn't it? You are sitting beside this extremely hot chick and all you can think about is getting into her pants. How in the world are you going to not make sex your priority when you are as horny as a goat?

Well, you are going to have to try because, the sad fact of the matter is that the harder you try to get sex the less likely you are to succeed.

Unlike sports, or the business world where focusing on your desired outcome produces results, focusing on getting her into bed is a sure way to fail.

Women have amazing perceptive abilities and will see right through you if all you are trying to do is have sex with them.

Whether it's just getting her phone number or it's getting her into your bed, the more you can detach yourself from the outcome the better your chances of success are.

You can't convince her to go to bed with you. Your job is to just interact with her, and let her convince herself that she want to have sex with you

Make playing the game it's own reward and focus on the here and now. Interact with her and, as difficult as it may be, try to put all thoughts of sex out of your mind. I know it's easier said than done when there's this hot babe in a tank top sitting beside you, but do it you must.

I can't even count how many times I've ended up with women when I wasn't even considering talking to them. The simple reason that I ended up in bed with them is that they didn't detect any ulterior motives in me, because I had none.

On the other hand anytime I've approached a women with the sole intention of picking her up she has been able to detect it and of course I was rejected.

Even though your intention may be to get into her pants, you need to train yourself to put the idea away and focus on what's happening now, not what you want to happen.

Yes you need to let her know you are interested in her, and you need to build attraction, but charging head on like a bull in a china shop is just going to chase her away, and you will end up going home alone.

Relax and just assume that when the time is right the two of you will end up in bed together, and the odds of it happening are ten times greater than they will be if you try using a bunch of tricks and useless techniques that she's seem a thousand times before.

There's a sequence of events that always take place before any woman will have sex with you, and they have to happen in the right order.

Not only do they have to happen in the right order, they need to happen, or at least appear to happen, naturally. If you try to hard to force any of them the whole thing will blow up in your face.

First you need to get her attracted to you.

No kidding right? If she's not attracted to you, she's not going to go to bed with you.

Next you have to build up her comfort level.

She needs to know that she's safe with you. After all her reputation and self respect are on the line.

If you do everything right in the first two stages chances are she will seduce you. You just need to pay attention to her clues.

Without Embarrassment will teach you how to meet and date far more women than you ever imagined possible

Gary Caine
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